Kink/BDSM Boundaries

As with my normal boundary page, thanks for taking the time to read this! It's important for me that everyone is comfortable when partaking in kink/BDSM, so this page lists the things I am comfortable and not comfortable doing. As with my normal boundaries, I don't generally get mad at others for accidentally crossing my boundaries every now and then; though, I may be more sensitive to repeated instances regarding kink/BDSM.

Unless otherwise stated, all boundaries in my normal boundary page still apply! Do read that first if you haven't already, thank you! Feel free to ask if you're ever unsure about anything, or if something isn't covered in the lists below! Likewise, please tell me if I'm ever crossing your own boundaries or making you feel uncomfortable!

It's important to note that I experience kink and BDSM separate from romance, both as something I just enjoy doing and as a way to retreat from being in control of things all the time. Engaging in kink with me is not necessarily a romantic gesture!

Safety note: my safeword is "tap", or multiple finger snaps in sequence

No

Genital or penetrative stuff

I'm generally not very interested in genital or penetrative stuff. "Genital stuff" refers to direct contact with reproductive organs (e.g. handjobs; I don't consider clothed contact "direct contact"). "Penetrative stuff" refers to any reproductive organ going in any part of the body (e.g. anal, vaginal, oral, etc.).

Certain hard/taboo kinks

• Race play
• Incest
• Knife/weapon play

Sensory things

I have autism and some skin conditions, so I'm particularly sensitive to certain kinds of stimuli.

• Blood play
• Scat/piss play
• Shouting/screaming/raised voices
• Unsanitary play (intentionally unsanitary; does not refer to becoming sweaty over the course of a scene)
• Impact play on genitals / sounding

Yes

(Non-exhaustive; listed items are mostly clarifications for interactions with my normal boundaries. Feel free to ask!)

As part of something I've agreed to

• Roughing me up (pushing me, throwing me around, etc.)
• Using implements/toys (e.g. cuffs, shockers, rope, tape, vibrators, etc.), except:
  • Toys intended for me to penetrate (e.g. sleeves, etc.)
  • Toys intended to penetrate me (e.g. dildoes, etc.)
  • Toys intended to resemble genitals
• Impact play
  • You may do so without warning if I've agreed to engage with it
  • Do not however hit my genitals (e.g. ball busting; this does not include my breasts)
• Restraining / gagging / blindfolding me
  • It's okay if this results in me not knowing when you're about to touch me
• Shock play (not on neck for safety)
• Breath play (done safely)
• High protocol / protocols

Aftercare

• I would prefer to be asked before being touched during aftercare, even if I agreed to be touched before
• I generally like to be praised, cared for (e.g. wound care / cleaning / checks), and talked to

Any time

• Ordering me around
  • But not to break my boundaries
• Making fun of / degrading / scolding me
• Praising me
• Training me