Personal Boundaries
Thanks for taking the time to read this! I don't generally get mad at others for accidentally crossing my boundaries from time to time, as I understand my boundaries may be more specific than some are used to. Feel free to just ask me if you're ever unsure about anything!
Likewise, I encourage you to tell me if I'm ever crossing your own boundaries or making you feel uncomfortable!
Don't (at all)
Physical things (regarding certain parts of my body)
Directly touching (incl. over text/through clothes) my:
- Genitals
- Buttocks
- Breasts
- Inner upper thighs
Romantic things (or at least, things that are romantic to me)
- Non-platonic advances (asking to date, etc.)
- Physical compliments involving directly touching body parts listed above
- See drop-down for examples
- Kissing on the lips
- Possessive statements (my pet, my girl, etc.)
(CW: adult themes)
Explicit compliments
Compliments that involve directly touching the above list of body parts, like:
- You have such a f-able ass
- I want to grab your tits
- etc.
Do (ask first)
Most other physical things
- Touching, rubbing, patting, holding, hugging, biting, etc. (even over text)
- General compliments / not involving directly touching listed body parts
- You only have to ask once for this (you can always ask again if unsure!)
- E.g. cute, pretty, "you have nice ..."
(CW: adult themes)
Kink/BDSM
You may engage in kink/BDSM activities with me if you are a trusted individual. I have a separate list of boundaries for that that I may send to those I am familiar with who ask for it / when the need arises.
Do (any time)
Pet names
I'm generally okay with friends I know using pet names for me! Just remember not to make them possessive! Examples:
- Sweetie
- Babe
- Honey
Non-physical things
- Non-physical compliments (smart, fun, cool, etc.)
- Teasing me
Things that are about me and my boyfriend
- Comments about our relationship (saying we're a cute couple, that I look cute with him, etc.)
Things that are not about me specifically
- Comments about snow leopards in general (that snow leopards are cute, etc.)
- Collectively referring to a group that I happen to be a part of (you don't need to say "everyone is cute, other than Haru", etc)