Kink/BDSM Boundaries

As with my normal boundary page, thanks for taking the time to read this! It's important for me that everyone is comfortable when partaking in kink/BDSM, so this page lists the things I am comfortable and not comfortable doing. As with my normal boundaries, I don't generally get mad at others for accidentally crossing my boundaries every now and then; though, I may be more sensitive to repeated instances regarding kink/BDSM.

Unless otherwise stated, all boundaries in my normal boundary page still apply! Do read that first if you haven't already, thank you! Feel free to ask if you're ever unsure about anything, or if something isn't covered in the lists below! Likewise, please tell me if I'm ever crossing your own boundaries or making you feel uncomfortable!

It's important to note that I experience kink and BDSM separate from romance, both as something I just enjoy doing and as a way to retreat from being in control of things all the time. Engaging in kink with me is not a romantic gesture; I am only romantically involved with my boyfriend (who I've discussed this with and is okay with me doing this)!

Safety note: my safeword is "tap", or multiple finger snaps in sequence

No

Hard kinks

I may partake in some of these harder kinks with my boyfriend exclusively, but not with anyone else.

• CNC
• Somno
• Meta-play (ending a scene early, fake safewords)
• Knife/weapon play

Sensory things

I have autism and some skin conditions, so I'm particularly sensitive to certain kinds of stimuli.

• Blood play
• Scat/piss play
• Shouting/screaming/raised voices
• Unsanitary play (intentionally unsanitary; does not refer to becoming sweaty over the course of a scene)
• Impact play on genitals / sounding

Owner things

Note: I will only ever be owned by my boyfriend, even if I'm being submissive with someone else.

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• Possessive statements (my girl, my thing, my toy, etc.)
• Collaring / uncollaring me

Yes

(Non-exhaustive; listed items are mostly clarifications for interactions with my normal boundaries. Feel free to ask!)

As part of a scene / agreed to in advance

• Roughing me up (pushing me, throwing me around, etc.)
• Using implements/toys (e.g. cuffs, shockers, rope, tape, etc.)
  • With the exception of penetrative toys (e.g. dildos, sleeves, etc.)
• Impact play
  • You may, say, spank me with your hands, as long as that is all you do (i.e. no groping / fondling after)
• Restraining / gagging / blindfolding me
  • It's okay if, say, you accidentally graze my breast while tying me up
• Shock play (not on neck for safety)
• Breath play (neck chokes should be done lightly / not held fully for safety)
• High protocol / protocols
  • But not to effect an owner dynamic (e.g. to only allow me to call you "my owner")

Aftercare

• You may touch me
  • You may touch listed areas for wound care (except for my genitals and breasts)
• I generally like to be praised, cared for (e.g. wound care / cleaning / checks), and talked to

Any time

• Ordering me around
  • But not to break my boundaries, or to touch listed parts on your body
• Making fun of / degrading / scolding me
• Praising me
• Snitching on me to my owner
• Giving my owner ideas for what to do to me
• Engaging with kink-related things my owner involves you with
  • You don't need to ask me for things my owner directly involves you with (unless you want to)