Personal Boundaries
Thanks for taking the time to read this! I don't generally get mad at others for accidentally crossing my boundaries from time to time, as I understand my boundaries may be more specific than some are used to. Feel free to just ask me if you're ever unsure about anything!
Likewise, I encourage you to tell me if I'm ever crossing your own boundaries or making you feel uncomfortable!
Don't
Most things physical
- Touching, rubbing, patting, etc. (even over text)
- Compliments (pretty, cute, hot, etc.)
Romantic things
- Pet names (darling, honey, baby, etc.)
- Flirting / non-platonic advances (asking to date, etc.)
Dom/sub things (CW: adult themes)
(I am owned by my boyfriend as a submissive. In adult spaces, I may sometimes refer to him as "my owner".)
- Ordering me
- Attempting to punish me
- Scolding me (in roleplay; not actual confrontation)
- Objectifying me (referring to me as a "thing")
- Collaring me
Do
Non-physical things
- Non-physical compliments (smart, fun, cool, etc.)
- Teasing me
Things that are about me and my boyfriend
- Comments about our relationship (saying we're a cute couple, that I look cute with him, etc.)
Things that are not about me specifically
- Comments about snow leopards in general (that snow leopards are cute, etc.)
- Collectively referring to a group that I happen to ba a part of (you don't need to say "everyone is cute, other than Haru", etc)
Certain kink things (CW: adult themes)
(This list applies specifically to adult spaces with no minors, with individuals or in spaces I am familiar with)
- Making fun of me
- Snitching on me to my owner
- Giving my owner ideas for what to do to me
- Engaging with kink-related things my owner involves you with
- You may make physical comments if and only if it is in response to a picture sent of me by my owner
- This exception does not extend to touching, or advances (saying you would like to do something to me)
- You may, however, enjoy whatever he sends and embarass me with it :)